Last night before Hubby went out to his game he said I could sleep in this morning. He came home around 3AM. Okay, he will still get up with the kids in the morning. Hmm, snores for over an hour before I am forced out of bed with a headache. Okay, I go back to bed once he's up. He's making me a nice breakfast with the kids. I end up getting up just before lunch and nuke some leftover macaroni instead. I would like to use the computer for a silly contest that's at a specific time on Sundays. Yeah, yeah he's getting off. Oh, he has to be at his sister's house in less than half an hour for a massage. Yet he still has time to eat ice cream for his dessert. Did the kids get lunch? 2 o'clock rolls around and they are complaining they are hungry. Okay, a snack of cheese, crackers and pickles should suffice. Apparently they had not been given lunch!
Hubby comes home and immediately goes down for a nap. I play on the computer because I am not feeling well and need to be mindlessly distracted. Eventually the kids come in to tell me they are hungry again. I ask them to wake up Daddy so he can make supper. I get up to go eat and find hotdogs and fries. No vegetables. Then Hubby books it out of the house to go to another game tonight. Leaving me to deal with two screaming and whining kids who I am trying hard not to yell at. The only redeeming thing Hubby did today was he did the cat litter after supper. And here I am going
excuse me was this Mother's Day?
Compare this to what is normally associated with Mother's Day. The Mom is allowed to sleep in and is typically served breakfast in bed. She is given a card or roses and told "Happy Mother's Day!" by her kids and husband. Sometimes she is taken out for brunch or allowed to go out by herself to do something, a spa or just coffee with friends. A really special gift the husband can do is make a nice supper or take out the Mom to dinner somewhere. Or at the very least do the housework for one day. Also the kids will be dealt with by the husband so the Mom has time to relax and realize that she is loved by her family. It's called a destressing or putting things into perspective.
The only gift I got today was a Happy Mother's Day wish from my sister-in-law. I would have been happy with a handmade card from the kids. So Yay! Happy Mother's Day!
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I have no words. Had this happened to my mother the roof would have blown off the top, and there would have been such an earth-shaking that we'd still be talking about it years later.
We forgot my mother's birthday (kind of) once. ONCE. The guilt lasts to this day.
You obviously need to hone your guilt skills somethin' fierce. Or else kick their asses.
Honey, I don't want to offend you, so I'm making this post anonymous so there's no conflict later. Not to mention you don't know me anyways, but I know of you through friends.
Putting details of maritial discourse seems quite uncalled for. Have you thought what your husband thinks of this? His (and your) financial, hormonal and marital issues have been posted for everyone to see, and it's all one-sided. People see your view on the problems you have with your husband, but that gives no room for him to defend himself. Is this really fair? Wouldn't it be better to discuss these issues with your husband than with the rest of the world?
If you really are that unhappy with the way things are, maybe you should look at other options, such as marriage counselling or sitting down with him one-on-one and explaining why you are upset. He deserves that chance, I think, so I hope you consider this and not take offence.
I take your point and just want you to realize that most of this is anonymous for a reason. That is why I use pseudonyms or knicknames for my family and friends. As well, yeah it's one sided because it's my blog. I am venting! If you know me in real life all I can say is okay that's fine. And yes we have accessed some of the resources you have mentioned, but if I was truly and desperately unhappy with my situation I would simply divorce my husband. For reasons I won't go into I am not considering that option. Maybe because I know things will get better I am just going through a rough period right now.
I say it's your blog and if you want to vent I say vent, rant, and rave! Otherwise you would bottle it al up and that's no good eiher. Beside if the hubby really wanted to defend himslef he would. Besides that men can be so dumb. And I'll give my brother a slap on the wrist for being a schmuck. I say steal father's day from the hubby!
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